Growing up, they tell us the things we could become; a doctor, a lawyer, a pilot etc. and all the nicest of professions but they never taught us about marriage. It was seen as the Climax of all achievements for a female child in Africa.
So you grow up thinking that is the Climax really until you see the world for yourself.
I was 20 years, I was clueless, naive and just wanted to leave home and be with him. My Aunty thought I was crazy. Everyone felt different but I couldn't understand it because I thought that was what growing up was all about; be married, get married.
Someway somehow, I started working at that age as an IT support/sales Rep. After all the certification exams and all. I started seeing things differently. My Boss, at that time, taught me so much about life itself, marriage and life achievements; and I felt like I have seen the light and it was damn bright, brighter than the sun.
So I called off the engagement because I needed to find who I am and what I wanted for myself and not just a baggage for someone who has found their self.
Folks, teach your girl child to know their worth, what they want for themselves and who they truly want to be. Don't force them into marriage like it’s the climax of life's achievements.
I'm almost 30 and I do not regret all the things I have experienced. Maybe some were too harsh, maybe I wasn’t just ready for all the stuff that happened but I'm glad that I have found my path.